Calling My Pride

I sit there looking funny, supporting other funny people.


The word that is associated with LGBTQ.

What does pride mean to me?

What does pride mean to the other non-LGBTQ members?

Isn’t being a hippie or a punk or a member of a minority subculture demands a PRIDE?

When I look into a dictionary, the only definition that satisfies me and doesn’t play with my mind is that of having a sense of positive ego, a healthy sense of narcissism.

PRIDE deals with gender identities and sexuality and the difference between the supposedly normal world and the queer world. 

Why should everyone be indulged in PRIDE?

You can say you are unique. But you are not. You are just a brick in the wall and you will always be that brick. Even if you are a famous actor, a musician or a soccer player, you still fall within a subculture. You are still surrounded by the people, who do the same job as you.

The difference stems in the popularity of a subculture or a group.

If you are from the subculture whose residents comprise of famous singers, you are more prone to enjoy fame.

But, unfortunately {not really}, if you belong to a minority subculture, you are shunned down, looked down upon.

So, it becomes hard for us {yes, I am a writer of the tribe}, to live a normal life. And that is why; PRIDE is an essential and important way to protest, to interact, to show.

And that is what pride is about.

PRIDE shouldn’t be devoured by them. Instead, this must be a time of the year, where different minorities who have faced prejudice; who are constantly fighting for their pride; who have been still even sustaining the torrents of bullying and violence.

PRIDE is a celebration of different, awkward, queer and not particularly LGBTQ. Pride shouldn’t only be about them, but also about the ‘looked down upon’ subculture.

Out of Iraq: A Warzone Romance

Director: Chris McKim & Eva Orner

Duration: 81 minutes

Release Date: 16 June 2016

In the Indian subcontinent, we have freedom to fight for the human rights. When we talk about the LGBT Community, even though homosexuality is criminalized, we still have the right to fight and give opinions against the said decisions {as long as we do not indulge in the Contempt Of Court}. But when me move towards the north and make a quick stop to the Middle Eastern states such as Iraq, Iran, etc. the scenario is completely different.

In these warzones, religion and culture shuts down the possibility of any debates. Specifically, in these areas, homosexuality is not only criminalized, but also punished with death. That makes it very frightening to the gay people.

The documentary ‘Out of Iraq’ showcases the romantic starry-eyed love story of Nayyef Hrebid, an Iraqi translator and Btoo Allami, an Iraqi soldier. The movie shot over 13 year takes its root from the Iraq wars of 2004. The film is also showcases their evacuation from Iraq, a long distance relationship and the awaited reunion. This has all the elements of a classic love story. 

The main agenda of the film is to depict the budding relationship of these two men. In addition to that, the documentary focuses on the war waging back then and the asylum escapade of the lovers. It narrates the story through snippets of interviews, old photographs & videos. These visuals also feature montages of gruesome activities which is one of the heartfelt parts in the entire movie. Even in the moments of war, they found something much more important i.e. love.

The directors successfully presented an amalgam between the two extreme polar dimensions; love and war. Although the concept of love is a little monotonous, but the alliteration remains invisible, thanks to the contrasting images of the war struck area.

Through the elusive use of colors {at times, pointless} and the imagery, the movie is successful in penetrating the hard shell of the audiences leading to a thorough oozing of emotions and a teary eye.

Dream Boy: A Novel

Novel best served with creative minds and a cup of coffee.

Author: Jim Grimsley

Publication : 1999

At first, the title suggests a starry-eyed love story. A boy equivalent to Prince Charming chased after by women in wedding gowns. Despite the title connoting a same old romance, it however unravels a queer love story of two teen boys. CAUTION! One of the protagonists has a dark past and lives his wound every day.

The book can be labeled as coming-of-age, romance, suspense, young adult. But when all of these elements are mixed, surprisingly we get a fine drama.

The story is set up in country and narrates the tale of Nathan, a shy and intelligent boy. His family consists of an alcoholic and abusive father; a meek and invisible mother. Nathan develops a crush on the stereotyped boy-next-door, Roy, an athletic jock. Together they embark on a sexual and emotional relationship.

Although it has a diversity of elements, most of them have been overused over the passage of time, as a result of which, the beauty of the moment is diminished. The juxtaposition of the optimistic and the unaccepted love with a gruesome and vivid imagery of exploitation is a classic element {which has been used frequently}.

Despite all the shortcomings, the characters have been well thought off. The characterizations are such as the readers would definitely connect with them and make them come alive. e.g. Nathan, who is shy throughout the journey, shocks everyone by showing everyone his bold side at various points.

At times Nathan’s back-story is explored which is sure to well up the readers latent emotions. It guarantees to break even the hardest façade into tears.

The ending is the most emotional segment of the novel which will bewilder its audience. It is kept open so as to let the reader go through the realm of his/her own imagination. As a result, it pushes the reader into an endless suspense.

The chemistry between all the characters is to be noted. The relationship of the leads is strictly sexual at first but then they start to connect on a whole new plane. The strained relation between Nathan and his father revives the readers’ anger and frustration. The invisibility of the mother and her absent-mindedness is strung along {though at one point she tends to break out of her regular image}.

In addition the book voices the minority and represents the LGBTQ community. It also emphasize upon the fact of homosexuality still being a taboo. Hence, this book serves an extra reading between the lines assignment for the readers who muster up courage through reading.

Grimsley elucidates every single detail as he himself is experiencing the said situations. Although there is not much dialogue between the characters {which may be due to the difference between their personalities}, but he compensates the conversations by beautifully describing the silence at the moment and their thoughts.

In short, Jim Grimsley’s ‘Dream Boy: A Novel’ is an impeccable example of a story that addresses both minor and major themes. It is a beautiful example of queer literature which at its very core holds the ability to become a classic, though it also has its own modern twist.